kids choice of partner?

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ashkhan

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coming from the recent parents and kids life topic. im starting a new one.

will u ppl being from a new generation give ur children boy and girl the choice to select their partners?

would u pick for them then ask them?

or...

would u leave it entirely to them?

and...

will it b different for girls and boys?
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
leave it entirely on them.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
wut will u do
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
bit of both...

1) let them voice their choice, if they have one.

2) if i find someone, introduce them to my kids...
   then the choice is entirely theirs. they dont have to accept.

girl or boy will b treted equally.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
nice
how do know the one u found is good.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
well. if i come acroos someone, financially secure, good job, and generally a good person, then ill introduce them. then if they have an understanding and feelings for each other, cool.

if not doesnt matter.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
oh and then have to have looks too.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
u c wat if the person they find isnt good for then and u know that. will u let ur kids do it?
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
umm yes.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
cuz i cant predict the future.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
ill tell them
then its their life
Posted 06 Oct 2005

well you shouldnt force ur kids to marry someone...you should ask their happiness...they want to spend their life..if something goes wrong...phir azaab unko sehelne parte hain...
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
yesh
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
true, but i will try my best, cos im am thier parent, what parent wants to c thier child suffer, even if its thieir decision. of course then if im giving them the liberty of making choices, then they wil have to have the liberty to lsten and think about my advice.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
i will never force them, or emotionally black mail them.
a tactic used by many paki parents.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan said:

true, but i will try my best, cos im am thier parent, what parent wants to c thier child suffer, even if its thieir decision. of course then if im giving them the liberty of making choices, then they wil have to have the liberty to lsten and think about my advice.



you will be good i like ur topics
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
thank u brother.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

nikama says
KYA BAAT HAY!abhi apni shadi ka pata nahin ...lagay bachon ki shadi karaanay.o,bhai wo tum se poochain gay to decision lo gay na.its 21st century.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
ya, that is why this is called a forum wher u disscuss issues. u listen to what ppl have to say so if someone has a better idea u can adopt it urself. making u more educated.
Posted 06 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
abhi sey preparations ker lo baad mein time nai miley ga
Posted 07 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
its jus knowledge
Posted 07 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
hanji ae wi hey
Posted 07 Oct 2005

Ashii says
i will help them offcourse
wont impose anything

and boy or girl
both will be treated in same way,,, sirf shadi k liye nahi harrrrr aik baat mei
Posted 07 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
absolutly agreed
Posted 07 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
hope u succeed
Posted 08 Oct 2005

ashkhan says
all the best to u too.
Posted 08 Oct 2005

Blue Oasis says

I think no one should 'pick' it should be a compromise between both generations, having said, I trust my parent's judgement and they respect my decision so I would agree to an arranged marriage.
Posted 08 Oct 2005

Blue Oasis says

It's very important to have an understanding between parents and children, so you know what your child wants and look for those things when selecting a potential groom/bride, and kids should trust their parents to make the right and best choice.
Posted 08 Oct 2005

but there should be choice of kids 2...
Posted 11 Oct 2005

BadShaH1 says
yesh oye
Posted 12 Oct 2005

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