If properly trained in these skills, a child will grow into a good talker who knows how to negotiate politely and successfully. This training should start at home when the child is able to understand and communicate messages.
The child, by nature, needs to communicate with those around him to exchange information, feelings and ideas, and this can be done by giving him the skills of listening (the art of listening), speaking and expressing his opinion with complete comfort without prohibition or alienation, and addressing him with the language of eyes, embracing and the tone of voice expressing love for him. We must employ all of these skills in a way that is closely related to us.
The following are some of the techniques that contribute to the development of these skills:
Have daily conversations with your child. These conversations will give him the opportunity to show his appropriate and effective communication with others.
He will learn how to speak and how to choose his words, and we cannot lose sight of your role as his father in the way you receive his words, you will have a strong influence on your child, so be a positive role model by communicating with him in an effective and gentle manner at all times, taking into account the way you communicate with him with all people Even if they are from outside the family.
Encourage your child to speak clearly. Listening to your child will make you aware of the areas that need improvement and adjustment in his speech. Always start talking to him, ask him about his day at school and about the people he spoke to today. When your child talks, listen, look, and observe. Is he talking off topic? What words does he use? Are they proper words?
Advise him not to interrupt the speaker, as children are notorious for interrupting speech. Try to direct him to stay away from it before it becomes a habit and remind him of the importance of listening to others when they are talking to him until they finish talking.
Avoid scolding him and asking him to remain completely silent and not continue talking, because this will cause fear and anxiety whenever he thinks of addressing and discussing others.
Encourage him to use words of request and thanks, “please” when asking for something, and “thank you” for gratitude and polite communication with others.
Play with him with toys that increase his communication, for example, let him have conversations between his dolls and cartoon characters. Take turns talking and listening with your child, eg listen for him when he talks for 15 seconds without interrupting him and then let him listen to you while you talk for 15 seconds.
Read stories and books on a daily basis, so the child will learn to listen to others and at the same time it is an entertaining experience for him and a good opportunity to spend time with him.
Warn him about the importance of eye contact with others and explain to him that looking in another direction when the speaker is talking to him will appear as unappreciated and not interested in the speaker’s words, as we cannot lose sight of the importance of non-verbal language (body language), as it forms an important part of conversations and communicate with others.