Kabhee Han kabhee Na

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friend_16

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it happens with me often that i really cannot make-up my mind .. kabhee haan aur kabhee na wali situation hoti hai ... no its not abt confessing love or something ... its about some of my important decisions of life .. i really cannot come up with a solution

its not something funny or else i wud have posted it in FOS .. its really a serious matter for me .. so does someone here wana suggest something for me?
Posted 31 Aug 2007

new_beau says
Either you say YS or NO...risk is always there....Just kep in mind that in any case your self respect should not get hurt....And then do what ever you want...
Posted 31 Aug 2007

friend_16 says
its not about self respect ..

i'll give u an example to clarify it ..

like u know .. we all have to get married.. yes or no ka case is main ye hai k ok i admit i have to get married one day .. but its just like .. k sometimes i think k right now i m not ready to take the responsibilities and everything and sometimes when i look around .. esp my elders k they really think k my age is the perfect age to get married .. so i get kindof confused..

i dono how to explain.. hope ur getting me ?
Posted 31 Aug 2007

new_beau says
Lekin kerni tou hay....Take some time and get prepared..and tell everyone clearly ....

And make a list...your achievement, Plans, Goals....Plan your way to live a life....And then step by step get prepared,....
Posted 31 Aug 2007

friend_16 says
yehi tu .. i make-up my mind k nahi .. abhe nahi .. and then when i see people around me and go through certain situations.. suddenly all my planings seem to be a second priority.. and often my Na turns to be Haan ..
Posted 31 Aug 2007

aap keh do na key aap fully prepared nahi ho..jis din u feel key u r ready now...tabhi ho sakta hai
Posted 01 Sep 2007

BadShaH1 says
aho beta g
yey to boht irritating sitation hoti hey
lekin life hey ..sehna perta hey
phir ek hal hota hey
Allah nu bulao
cheekh ker
phir, koi desicion ley lo step wise
and jutt ker per jao us key peechey
phir khudi direction ajaey gi
..
wsey yey mein apney point of view bata ra hoo ..lolz
Posted 01 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
lets put this marriage situation aside .. coz i have been thinking on this .. shadi tab he honi hai jab kismat mein likha ho ga .. meri haan ya na say farq nahi parnay wala ..

i think k i don't have consistancy in myself .. i know i m a very diplomatic person ( as they are really successful) but still one cannot travel in two boats at a time .. so its makes all the confusion which one to choose ..

lets make it more clear .. i learned the advantages and disadvantages of the two ways and i even selected one ... but when i started to travel .. i find the other one more tempting (the decision of "yes" turns into "no"...

is this just the human nature? or is there something wrong with me..
Posted 01 Sep 2007

jab mujhay koi faisla karnay main mushkil hoti hai aur bawajud koshish kay aik baat per ruknay main nakam rahun tou phir main cheezon ko aisay hi chhor deti hun
aur Allah say du akarti hun kay jomeray liye behter hai
us rastay per mor day


aur dimagh kahnapan band kar deti hun
so i think fslay ki koshish zaroor karni chahaiye but na kar sakain tou lagam haath say chhor deni chahiye
Posted 09 Sep 2007

BadShaH1 says
thats human nature
atleast mine, that u find the other thing more tempting.
Posted 11 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
nice one QV .. chor don ..

and badshah same is the case with me..

anyways thnx both of u..
Posted 11 Sep 2007

haan jaisay waqt chal rah ahai chalnay do
jo Allah nay llikha hai jis waqt per wo tou hon hi hai
bcz
man proposes GOD disposes
Posted 11 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
per QV youn saab kuch chora tu nahi ja sakta .. kuch decisions hamain timely lainay hotay hein warna baad mein sirf regret reh jata hai k kaash us waqt kuch ker lia hota ..
Posted 11 Sep 2007

Barsaat says
apnay sath yah prb nahin hay
mujhe jo bat ziada sahi lagti hay wo main kar laiti hon,
bad main chahay bughtna parhay
coz, faisla apna ho ya dusron ka, kuch hath kismat ka bi hota hay,
you never know kay, kon sa faisla bad main kia rang laey ga
to itni tension kis liyay???
haan jo bat khud ko sahi lagay, wo karain gien to koi pachtawa nahin rahay ga bad main
and ho sakta hay jo aap ka faisla ho wohi ALLAH nay bi socha ho aap kay liyay
bas insan ko SAHI or GHALAT ki pahchan honi chahiyay


Posted 13 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
sahe ghalat ki baat he nahi hai ..

example aisay k app aik rastay par ja rahay ho , suddenly agay say wo 2 raaston mein change ho jata hai, dono kaafi zttractice hein aur dono ki apni he manzil hai .. chal tu app sirf aik par he saktay ho laiken ab wo kaun sa raasta hai usay choose kernay mein mujhay bohaat he mushkil hoti hai ..

kismat ka bhe haath hota hai kaafi jaga, quite true!

my frnd asked me to go for istkhara.. i think thats the best option!
Posted 13 Sep 2007

Barsaat says
acha samjhi,
acha aisa ho to khud say bolo lalach buri bala hay, and kisi bi aik rastay par chal parho zahir hay dono par to chalnay say rahi aap :P
nahin joke nahin,
jab dono hi rastay sahi hain,
to phir choose karnay main kia dushwari?

yeah istekhara to theek hay but istekhara k jo dreams ate hen, un ki bi to aksar samajh nahin ati


Posted 14 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
yehi tu problem hai na .. dono raastay sahi hein .. is liay tu confusion hota hai .. agar aik sahe aur aik ghalat ho tu chose kernay mein koi problem he na ho.. although bura raasta bohat tempt kerta hai laiken pata hota hai k ghalat hai aur nahi kerna .. laiken 2 sahe situations mein aik select kerna bohaat he mushkil hota hai ..
Posted 15 Sep 2007

Barsaat says
hmmm i would say aap bohat lucky ho, aisa ho to ALLAH ka shukar ada karna chahiyay
coz aam tor par to ham logon ko aik bi sahi rasta mushkil say milta hay.

Posted 15 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
u r not getting .. to move on in life sometimes u have to decide ur path.. and choosing the path creates all the trouble .. right or wrong to hai .. wrong to ho gia side per .. ab jo right hai us mein bhe 2 raastay hein aur select aik kerna hai .. when i chose track no 1.. i feel k track 2 ziada behtar hai .. and sometimes i dont even have time to change the track ...

well people say k kismat ka bhe haath hota hai .. lets just end this topic .. coz koi solution nahi hai is problem ka ..
Posted 15 Sep 2007

Ashii says
1/ listen to others but dont get influenced by them,, chahe woh tumhare parents hon
2/ kissi bhi situation k dono pehlu zehn mei rakh k seriously dono k adv/disadv dohrao

phir jo dil karta hai Allah ka naam le k wohi karo
dont think much abt result,, result is not in ur hands,, result Allah miyan k haath mei hai,, tumhare haath mei sirf poori koshish karna hai
sahi wakt pe sahi koshish karna

agar result marzi ka nahi hua to kya fark parta hai
u ll see kuch arse baad khud samajh aa jae gi k apni galti kahan thi,,, aur jo result samne aaya hai uss ka positive pehlu kya hai
and remember one thing,,,
NOOOO REGRETTTSSSSSSSSSS,,,, not a single one
Posted 16 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
it is basically the element of regret which doesn't let me move on .. i mean at the time of making a decision i want to make sure i m making a right one coz later in life i dont want to regret..

i was thinking k it was self-created problem.. par khair i'll keep all the advices in my mind..

thnx ashi..
Posted 16 Sep 2007

Ashii says
u welcome saheli

woh jo kehte hein na Allah pe bharosa,, woh iss baare mei kehte hein,, apni taraf se poooori koshish then yakeen
jo baat dil k khilaf ho woh nahi karo kabhi,, but dont forget to consult ur brain


and then
NO REGRETSSSS,, yar woh aik gana hai no regrets,, woh suna karo
subah nihar mu,, 40 din tak

Posted 16 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
wo kia hai k dono he raastay achay lagtay hein, her raastay ki apni he advantages aur disadvantages hotay hein.. per khair i have decided k jab aik rasta select ker lia tu phir wapis mur ker nahi daikhna chahyee aur usi par he satified ho jana chahyee ..

ye gana ki suggestion ramazan mein kuch theek nahi hai.. waisay mainey ye suna bhe nahi hua..
Posted 16 Sep 2007

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