Is this considered cheating/infidelity?

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ChelseaVork

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I recently found out from one of my male best friend’s (who also happened to be one of my husbands groomsmen who was at his bachelors party) that my husband and his groomsmen took strippers back to their villa on their bachelor trip at 4-5am. Apparently they spent hours going into every strip club to find the stripper they personally wanted to bring back to their villa and I found out one of them had intercourse with one of them for sure as my friend walked into the room by accident and saw. I asked if he knew about the other guys and my husband but he said he wasn’t sure but the living room was quiet and it was as if everyone was in their own rooms. Also that same bachelor party night, they were at strip clubs all night since 6pm until 5am and didn’t even eat dinner and that they were all getting hand jobs and felt up by the strippers for hours on end. I also heard that my husband was the ring leader and the one egging everyone on to bring strippers back to their villa. I also found out that that same day before they went out to the strip clubs- they had booked 3 strippers come to their villa to hang out with all the groomsmen and had a strip tease for my husband to watch. I’m personally ok with this and going to strip clubs but what made me more concerned was the fact that apparently after the strippers were done with their booking, my husband tried negotiating really hard with 2 of the strippers to pay for them to go and take a bath with him privately in his room. What should I think about this?I’m all for bachelor parties and going to see strippers in a strip club- nothing against it. In fact I’m actually very chilled and relaxed about that. But when I hear they’re searching and paying for strippers to come back to their villa, that’s where I draw the line. I don’t know if there was anything done such as intercourse (and I never will know) but how should I feel about this?
Posted 3 weeks ago

Durrandort says
I think this is cheating, plain and simple. If you don’t accept that kind of thing and he knew that, then he cheated.
Posted 3 weeks ago

Olandeep says
There’s a huge difference between going to a strip club for fun and actively trying to bring people back to the villa—that just feels sneaky. I’ve been to ???? before with some friends (just out of curiosity tbh) and even though it’s a strip club with private rooms, it felt pretty controlled and respectful. What your husband did sounds way more planned and intimate, and yeah… that would really mess with my trust too.
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