Does a girl really love once in her life?

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It is said, "larki zindagi mein ek baar mohabbat karti hay". What does this philosophy signify actually?

Let's suppose, a girl loves someone and later on could not marry him. Afterwards she marries some other person. So now what is the state of her love to her husband? If, according to the said philosophy, the previous one was her 'ek baar mohabbat' so what kind of this 'mohabbat' is? Or this is COMPROMISE (because she had already loved someone earlier i.e. 'zindagi mein ek baar mohabbat').

So what the husband is receiving from her wife:
. love (which he believes to be true)
. compromise love (which the wife knows what she is giving to him)

Does this 'kahi janay wali baat' work in real sense? Or should this 'nazariah' exist to classify the standard of love of a girl?

What do you say?
Posted 11 Aug 2007

when a girl marry other person then she forget her first love and her love become her husband............this is fact ....she forget her first love .......
Posted 12 Aug 2007

yaaar kub ya sacha ,jhoota phela akhari love k chkar khutam hoo ga plz aub buss kar dooo. philosophy change ho jani chiyah aub .............................
Posted 13 Aug 2007

MrDeath says
girls = boyfriends to the power infinity...

so dont worry...
Posted 13 Aug 2007

Zindagi ke AAS said:

when a girl marry other person then she forget her first love and her love become her husband............this is fact ....she forget her first love .......













yeah right......
Posted 14 Aug 2007

sun_shine says
I think may be woh shaadi k baad compromise karti ho yaa phir doosri baar love.
but jaiay kehtay hain na k
tumhaaray siwa kuch na chahat karaingay
k jab tak jiyengay mohabbat karaingay
abis mohabbat k baaray main har insaan ka view alag hain
Posted 15 Aug 2007

khaas larkyun ki baat hi kyun


kisi ka bhi koi bhi piyaar aakhri nahin hota
sab pehlay piyar ko bhulanay main dusra aur dusray ko bhulanay main teesra kartay hain
aur sari zindagi silsila chalat rehta hai
Posted 15 Aug 2007

mmja says
ager koi kisi say sacha pyiar karta hai to ho sakta hai kay bad mein woh samjhota kar lay ya dosray insaan ko bhi pasend karnay lagay lakin woh pehlay ko bholta nahin hai life mein boht kuch esa karna parta hai ja hum nahin karna chatay.
Posted 16 Aug 2007

mmja says
ager aik lakka kisi say sacha pyiar karta hai or woh larki kisi wajah say uski zindgi ka hisa nahin ban saki to ghar walon ki wajah say ya wesay bhi ab ager koi or larki uski zindgi ka hisa hai to pehlay pyiar ki wajah say uskay sath nainsafi to nahin karni chaye na usko bhi man,pyiar ya jo bhi ap keh lay dayna parayga.
Posted 16 Aug 2007

sun_shine says
yaa yeh baat larko larkiyoon sab k baaray main hain.per filhaal sawaal sirf larkiyon k baaray main hain.yaa you both are right
Posted 16 Aug 2007

mmja says
jo mera openion tha meinay keh deyia ab jahan tak khali girls ki bat hai to iska jwaba wohi behter day sakti hein kum say kum mein nahin day sakta
Posted 17 Aug 2007

sun_shine says
agar Khuda nakhwasta kisi k saath aisa ho to i think compromise k siwa aur koi option hi nahi bachta.agar option ho bhi tab bhi aik aurat compromise kar lay gi kyunki kabhi family ki khatir to kabhi kisi aur waja say.
Posted 17 Aug 2007

javad says
YES LARKI BHOOL JATI HAI.. INFACT SAB BHOOL JATY HAIN HUM BANY HI ISTARHAN SAY HAIN K GAYE WQT KO BHOOL JATY HAIN AUR JO PRESENT HOTA HAI USHI KO SAB KUCH SAMJHTY HAIN.
Posted 17 Aug 2007

friend_16 says
i think her kisi ka love aur shadi k baray mein different concept hota hai ...

first of all .. shadi say pehlay muhabbat ka aik nia riwaj jo hamari society mein phail chuka hai ... wo he ghalat hai .. par khair sawal ye nahi hai ..

well i think it depends on that particular girl .. its better for her to forget the person she loved once and accept her husband for their successful matrimonial life..
Posted 30 Aug 2007

LiL_DollY says
ts all in the head.

I was in love once. And some people told me it wasnt love. But to me in
my heart it was...and all those feelings I had never felt, and the
butterflies. Of course it was love. Especially when you feel...hurt like
youve never been hurt before you know its love. And its hard...when a
girl first falls in love she thinks shes gonna spend the rest of her life with
that person. but this isnt always the case.

And usually in our culture what happens. We all know. Girl falls in love
with one person and she marries another. So common its a typical story
not a surprise at all.

I think...
If your full of love...
you can love with all your heart again.

From each moment in life whether its falling in love and not being with
the person you love or anything else....theres a lesson to be learned. And
that lesson only helps you make yourself become a better person. And
that better person someday falls in love once again with another person.
Lifes a circle of lessons. Whether its love or anything else. We have to
make the best of it.

I believe in love. And I believe in true love. WHether I have it in my life or
not. Im truly a believer, a fantisizer, and a hopeful person. I do believe a
women can love again. The second time around She loves better. Just
like we do anything the 1st time its usually not as good as we couldve
done it. But the 2nd time or 3rd time we do it better beause we
experinced something, we learned.

I know...that every person (whether paki or not) before getting married
likes someone, has a crush on them, or is friends with that person
whatever. And they usually end up marrying someone their parents
chose or suggested for them.
According to what you said...sounds like...
its really hard when you feel like you love someone and you marry
someone else. You used the word: "Compromise," which means
agreement. So I guess thats how marriage is defined in a culture that
does not widely accept love marriages.
Very common in our culture. hardly ever hear about true love
marriages. I always hear about arranged marriages. But maybe someday
that will change.
Its something to ponder upon.
We all live our lives once.
Lets make the best of it!
Posted 31 Aug 2007

javad says
u r rite..

DEKHO...BAAT SIRF LARKION KI NAHI
HUM APNAY MAA BAAP SAY KINTA PAYAR KARTY AUR AAPNAY DEKHA HAI.. JAB WO WAFAAT PAA JATY HAIN TO AAHISTA AAHISTA...SAB BHOOL JATA HAI..YAD AATI BHI HAI TO SHIDAT ME KAMI HO JATI HAI.
ishye liye dunia chal rahi hai... Warna to..Zinda rehna hi mushkil ho jata...

aur agar payar larka larki wala kahen.
to...wo bhi bhool to jata hai..lekin bilkul hi bhool jaye shayed esa nahi hota. kabi na kabi kuch na kuch yad to ata hi hoga.
Posted 31 Aug 2007

friend_16 says
LiL_DollY said:

ts all in the head.

I was in love once. And some people told me it wasnt love. But to me in
my heart it was...and all those feelings I had never felt, and the
butterflies. Of course it was love. Especially when you feel...hurt like
youve never been hurt before you know its love. And its hard...when a
girl first falls in love she thinks shes gonna spend the rest of her life with
that person. but this isnt always the case.

And usually in our culture what happens. We all know. Girl falls in love
with one person and she marries another. So common its a typical story
not a surprise at all.

I think...
If your full of love...
you can love with all your heart again.

From each moment in life whether its falling in love and not being with
the person you love or anything else....theres a lesson to be learned. And
that lesson only helps you make yourself become a better person. And
that better person someday falls in love once again with another person.
Lifes a circle of lessons. Whether its love or anything else. We have to
make the best of it.

I believe in love. And I believe in true love. WHether I have it in my life or
not. Im truly a believer, a fantisizer, and a hopeful person. I do believe a
women can love again. The second time around She loves better. Just
like we do anything the 1st time its usually not as good as we couldve
done it. But the 2nd time or 3rd time we do it better beause we
experinced something, we learned.

I know...that every person (whether paki or not) before getting married
likes someone, has a crush on them, or is friends with that person
whatever. And they usually end up marrying someone their parents
chose or suggested for them.
According to what you said...sounds like...
its really hard when you feel like you love someone and you marry
someone else. You used the word: "Compromise," which means
agreement. So I guess thats how marriage is defined in a culture that
does not widely accept love marriages.
Very common in our culture. hardly ever hear about true love
marriages. I always hear about arranged marriages. But maybe someday
that will change.
Its something to ponder upon.
We all live our lives once.
Lets make the best of it!



wow awesome i must say .. ap nay khud likha hai? .. ahem jokes aside .. its just wow

the lesson learned:

alwayz be positive in life!
Posted 31 Aug 2007

Barsaat says
aik ho chuka hay
agar dusra hoa to bataon gi lol
Posted 13 Sep 2007

friend_16 says
aasera she/he wasn't asking for personal experience, just ur opinion and observation..
Posted 13 Sep 2007

madgirl* says
hey well depends
my moms   cozin she was 17 when she married her cozin captain aamir and just after 7 months of her marriage aamir uncle martyred in war of 1971 and she decided not to marry again even she was very young but she said she is not a widow becuz shaheed never die and after few months of his martyrdom his wife gave birth to a baby my cozin saahil bin aamir and he is also in army and his mother says i wish i could have thousands of sons or wo sab shahadat nosh farmaate par ab aik hi hai to is k liye bhi mere khayalat yahi hai
so it was her true love not only for her husband but also for her country
Posted 13 Sep 2007

Barsaat says
^golden days thay wo, ab aisa mushkil hi say ho


friend_16 said:

aasera she/he wasn't asking for personal experience, just ur opinion and observation..



i know ,auron ki to sab bat kartay hain,
aisay hota ho ga,waisa hota ho ga,
to mainay socha kay apnay baray main bata don
ab jhoot to bola nahin hay, agar dusra ho gaya to bata dongi, nahin hoa tab bi,
unko answer mil jaey ga
Posted 14 Sep 2007

Ashii says


yarr yeh jumla kissi mard ne hi invent kiya hoga
apni anaa ki taskeen k liye
aur yeh baat baar baar dohrai jati hai kyun k this is the way MEN WANTS WOMEN TO B

jahn tak compromise ki baat hai,, spcialy in marital life
i dont believe in it,, compromise ka matlab hota hai dhoka,, khud k saath bhi kissi aur k saath bhi

come on yarrr...
we have no idea of wot love is,, agle lamhe mei kya hona hai kuch pata nahi,,
pyar aur zindagi k baare mei aisi batein aam taur pe 18/19 ki umer mei ki jati hein,, mera khyal bachon ko zyada movies nahi dekhni chaiye
Posted 16 Sep 2007

Sentiments says
Ashii said:



yarr yeh jumla kissi mard ne hi invent kiya hoga
apni anaa ki taskeen k liye
aur yeh baat baar baar dohrai jati hai kyun k this is the way MEN WANTS WOMEN TO B


mera khyal bachon ko zyada movies nahi dekhni chaiye

Posted 16 Nov 2007

sun_shine says
no boday can say except the girl who is invovled in this matter.
Posted 23 Nov 2007

danie says
Aap sabke khayalat jaane. Sabka alag alag sochna hai.
Main AShii ji ke khayalat se agree hon (sorry abhi "agree" ke liye sahi urdu word dimag mein nahi aa raha.

Mere khayal se pyar sirf ek jazba hei. Alag alag age mein iska impact alag alag hota hei. 17-18 ki age to kayalon mein urrne aur dube rahne ki hei. Ye statement jis par hum discuss kar rahe hein ek 17-18 saal ki larki ke hisab se sahi hei. Lekin mere khayal se waqt ke sath khayalat, jazbat, halaat sabhi kuch badalta hei. aur isi badlaav ka naam hi to jindgi hei.     
Posted 27 Nov 2007

sun_shine says
well said
per agar overall inka mawazna ya comparison kiya jaye to?
Posted 27 Nov 2007

danie says
Mere hisab se is duniya mei jo bhi kuch hei sab conditional hei. Unconditional truth is only the one. Ya, I mean to indicate "Allah" or God or Bhagwan Or ......or...

Jese agar hum kahen ki " Pani colorless hota he." ek tarah se ye baat sahi hei. Lekin ye bhi tab hi sahi he jab ki vo pure ho. yani There is a condition.
Jese " doodh ka rang safed hota he. true? but no again there is a condition ki hamne isne rooh afza nahi milaya hua he to. Aese har ek baat perfect truth nahi hei. sab ke sath kuch na kuch conditions he.

The very same thing is here in the statement we are disscussing upon. The sentance is right but conditions are applied.

I am sorry, urdu mujhe achhi nahi aati.
Posted 30 Nov 2007

Bazigaar says
depends on each invidual
Posted 30 Nov 2007

sun_shine says
yaa its true.koi baat nahi hamain bhi urdu khaas nahi aati bas koshish kar laitay hain
Posted 30 Nov 2007

well tht's a good question. its true that a girl never forgets her first love but it also depends on how strong her love was in the first place. I am not talkin abt the love tht guys and girls have for each other these dayz tht lasts only a few months. if she does really love someone she will not forget him even if she marries another guy but now tht she is married she will be loyal to her husband and start loving him. its not tht she is compromising. she will start loving her husband and maybe love her husband more then she ever loved the guy. its kind of complicated so those of whom this has happened to can actaully tell u how it is.
Posted 03 Dec 2007

everyone has to be loyal to his/her relationship ..... very true and well said

and as i can't give answer on my personal exp coz i'm not a girl but as far as i know ... u can't undo past.. tu achi buri yadein insaan k saath rehti hein ... Pyar , Nafrat insaan k dil mein pyda hoty hein .. jo waqat k saath or yeah kabhi kissi haas waqat gehray yeah madham ho jaty hein.

but .... agar insaan mein insaniyat hay .. chahy woh girl ho k boy.

apni commitment ko nahi bholna chahiye.
Posted 04 Dec 2007

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