It is said, "larki zindagi mein ek baar mohabbat karti hay". What does this philosophy signify actually?
Let's suppose, a girl loves someone and later on could not marry him. Afterwards she marries some other person. So now what is the state of her love to her husband? If, according to the said philosophy, the previous one was her 'ek baar mohabbat' so what kind of this 'mohabbat' is? Or this is COMPROMISE (because she had already loved someone earlier i.e. 'zindagi mein ek baar mohabbat').
So what the husband is receiving from her wife: . love (which he believes to be true) . compromise love (which the wife knows what she is giving to him)
Does this 'kahi janay wali baat' work in real sense? Or should this 'nazariah' exist to classify the standard of love of a girl?
Zindagi ke AAS
Age: 124
6130 days old here
Total Posts: 18
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
when a girl marry other person then she forget her first love and her love become her husband............this is fact ....she forget her first love .......
So Far Away
Age: 124
6747 days old here
Total Posts: 3386
Points: 0
Location:
United States, United States
yaaar kub ya sacha ,jhoota phela akhari love k chkar khutam hoo ga plz aub buss kar dooo. philosophy change ho jani chiyah aub .............................
mini_lovely
Age: 124
6105 days old here
Total Posts: 10
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
Zindagi ke AAS said:
when a girl marry other person then she forget her first love and her love become her husband............this is fact ....she forget her first love .......
sun_shine
Age: 124
6809 days old here
Total Posts: 13494
Points: 0
Location:
Afghanistan, Afghanistan
I think may be woh shaadi k baad compromise karti ho yaa phir doosri baar love. but jaiay kehtay hain na k tumhaaray siwa kuch na chahat karaingay k jab tak jiyengay mohabbat karaingay abis mohabbat k baaray main har insaan ka view alag hain
QUEEN VICTORIA
Age: 124
7557 days old here
Total Posts: 26285
Points: 0
Location:
Lahore, Pakistan
khaas larkyun ki baat hi kyun
kisi ka bhi koi bhi piyaar aakhri nahin hota sab pehlay piyar ko bhulanay main dusra aur dusray ko bhulanay main teesra kartay hain aur sari zindagi silsila chalat rehta hai
mmja
Age: 124
6851 days old here
Total Posts: 3835
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
ager koi kisi say sacha pyiar karta hai to ho sakta hai kay bad mein woh samjhota kar lay ya dosray insaan ko bhi pasend karnay lagay lakin woh pehlay ko bholta nahin hai life mein boht kuch esa karna parta hai ja hum nahin karna chatay.
mmja
Age: 124
6851 days old here
Total Posts: 3835
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
ager aik lakka kisi say sacha pyiar karta hai or woh larki kisi wajah say uski zindgi ka hisa nahin ban saki to ghar walon ki wajah say ya wesay bhi ab ager koi or larki uski zindgi ka hisa hai to pehlay pyiar ki wajah say uskay sath nainsafi to nahin karni chaye na usko bhi man,pyiar ya jo bhi ap keh lay dayna parayga.
sun_shine
Age: 124
6809 days old here
Total Posts: 13494
Points: 0
Location:
Afghanistan, Afghanistan
agar Khuda nakhwasta kisi k saath aisa ho to i think compromise k siwa aur koi option hi nahi bachta.agar option ho bhi tab bhi aik aurat compromise kar lay gi kyunki kabhi family ki khatir to kabhi kisi aur waja say.
javad
Age: 40
7395 days old here
Total Posts: 14160
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
YES LARKI BHOOL JATI HAI.. INFACT SAB BHOOL JATY HAIN HUM BANY HI ISTARHAN SAY HAIN K GAYE WQT KO BHOOL JATY HAIN AUR JO PRESENT HOTA HAI USHI KO SAB KUCH SAMJHTY HAIN.
friend_16
Age: 124
7438 days old here
Total Posts: 10089
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
i think her kisi ka love aur shadi k baray mein different concept hota hai ...
first of all .. shadi say pehlay muhabbat ka aik nia riwaj jo hamari society mein phail chuka hai ... wo he ghalat hai .. par khair sawal ye nahi hai ..
well i think it depends on that particular girl .. its better for her to forget the person she loved once and accept her husband for their successful matrimonial life..
LiL_DollY
Age: 124
7016 days old here
Total Posts: 13322
Points: 0
Location:
United States, United States
ts all in the head.
I was in love once. And some people told me it wasnt love. But to me in my heart it was...and all those feelings I had never felt, and the butterflies. Of course it was love. Especially when you feel...hurt like youve never been hurt before you know its love. And its hard...when a girl first falls in love she thinks shes gonna spend the rest of her life with that person. but this isnt always the case.
And usually in our culture what happens. We all know. Girl falls in love with one person and she marries another. So common its a typical story not a surprise at all.
I think... If your full of love... you can love with all your heart again.
From each moment in life whether its falling in love and not being with the person you love or anything else....theres a lesson to be learned. And that lesson only helps you make yourself become a better person. And that better person someday falls in love once again with another person. Lifes a circle of lessons. Whether its love or anything else. We have to make the best of it.
I believe in love. And I believe in true love. WHether I have it in my life or not. Im truly a believer, a fantisizer, and a hopeful person. I do believe a women can love again. The second time around She loves better. Just like we do anything the 1st time its usually not as good as we couldve done it. But the 2nd time or 3rd time we do it better beause we experinced something, we learned.
I know...that every person (whether paki or not) before getting married likes someone, has a crush on them, or is friends with that person whatever. And they usually end up marrying someone their parents chose or suggested for them. According to what you said...sounds like... its really hard when you feel like you love someone and you marry someone else. You used the word: "Compromise," which means agreement. So I guess thats how marriage is defined in a culture that does not widely accept love marriages. Very common in our culture. hardly ever hear about true love marriages. I always hear about arranged marriages. But maybe someday that will change. Its something to ponder upon. We all live our lives once. Lets make the best of it!
javad
Age: 40
7395 days old here
Total Posts: 14160
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
u r rite..
DEKHO...BAAT SIRF LARKION KI NAHI HUM APNAY MAA BAAP SAY KINTA PAYAR KARTY AUR AAPNAY DEKHA HAI.. JAB WO WAFAAT PAA JATY HAIN TO AAHISTA AAHISTA...SAB BHOOL JATA HAI..YAD AATI BHI HAI TO SHIDAT ME KAMI HO JATI HAI. ishye liye dunia chal rahi hai... Warna to..Zinda rehna hi mushkil ho jata...
aur agar payar larka larki wala kahen. to...wo bhi bhool to jata hai..lekin bilkul hi bhool jaye shayed esa nahi hota. kabi na kabi kuch na kuch yad to ata hi hoga.
friend_16
Age: 124
7438 days old here
Total Posts: 10089
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
LiL_DollY said:
ts all in the head.
I was in love once. And some people told me it wasnt love. But to me in my heart it was...and all those feelings I had never felt, and the butterflies. Of course it was love. Especially when you feel...hurt like youve never been hurt before you know its love. And its hard...when a girl first falls in love she thinks shes gonna spend the rest of her life with that person. but this isnt always the case.
And usually in our culture what happens. We all know. Girl falls in love with one person and she marries another. So common its a typical story not a surprise at all.
I think... If your full of love... you can love with all your heart again.
From each moment in life whether its falling in love and not being with the person you love or anything else....theres a lesson to be learned. And that lesson only helps you make yourself become a better person. And that better person someday falls in love once again with another person. Lifes a circle of lessons. Whether its love or anything else. We have to make the best of it.
I believe in love. And I believe in true love. WHether I have it in my life or not. Im truly a believer, a fantisizer, and a hopeful person. I do believe a women can love again. The second time around She loves better. Just like we do anything the 1st time its usually not as good as we couldve done it. But the 2nd time or 3rd time we do it better beause we experinced something, we learned.
I know...that every person (whether paki or not) before getting married likes someone, has a crush on them, or is friends with that person whatever. And they usually end up marrying someone their parents chose or suggested for them. According to what you said...sounds like... its really hard when you feel like you love someone and you marry someone else. You used the word: "Compromise," which means agreement. So I guess thats how marriage is defined in a culture that does not widely accept love marriages. Very common in our culture. hardly ever hear about true love marriages. I always hear about arranged marriages. But maybe someday that will change. Its something to ponder upon. We all live our lives once. Lets make the best of it!
wow awesome i must say .. ap nay khud likha hai? .. ahem jokes aside .. its just wow
madgirl*
Age: 124
6072 days old here
Total Posts: 133
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
hey well depends my moms cozin she was 17 when she married her cozin captain aamir and just after 7 months of her marriage aamir uncle martyred in war of 1971 and she decided not to marry again even she was very young but she said she is not a widow becuz shaheed never die and after few months of his martyrdom his wife gave birth to a baby my cozin saahil bin aamir and he is also in army and his mother says i wish i could have thousands of sons or wo sab shahadat nosh farmaate par ab aik hi hai to is k liye bhi mere khayalat yahi hai so it was her true love not only for her husband but also for her country
Barsaat
Age: 124
6562 days old here
Total Posts: 1440
Points: 0
Location:
Afghanistan, Afghanistan
^golden days thay wo, ab aisa mushkil hi say ho
friend_16 said:
aasera she/he wasn't asking for personal experience, just ur opinion and observation..
i know ,auron ki to sab bat kartay hain, aisay hota ho ga,waisa hota ho ga, to mainay socha kay apnay baray main bata don ab jhoot to bola nahin hay, agar dusra ho gaya to bata dongi, nahin hoa tab bi, unko answer mil jaey ga
Ashii
Age: 124
7543 days old here
Total Posts: 31001
Points: 0
Location:
France, France
yarr yeh jumla kissi mard ne hi invent kiya hoga apni anaa ki taskeen k liye aur yeh baat baar baar dohrai jati hai kyun k this is the way MEN WANTS WOMEN TO B
jahn tak compromise ki baat hai,, spcialy in marital life i dont believe in it,, compromise ka matlab hota hai dhoka,, khud k saath bhi kissi aur k saath bhi
come on yarrr... we have no idea of wot love is,, agle lamhe mei kya hona hai kuch pata nahi,, pyar aur zindagi k baare mei aisi batein aam taur pe 18/19 ki umer mei ki jati hein,, mera khyal bachon ko zyada movies nahi dekhni chaiye
Sentiments
Age: 124
6116 days old here
Total Posts: 15
Points: 0
Location:
Singapore, Singapore
Ashii said:
yarr yeh jumla kissi mard ne hi invent kiya hoga apni anaa ki taskeen k liye aur yeh baat baar baar dohrai jati hai kyun k this is the way MEN WANTS WOMEN TO B
mera khyal bachon ko zyada movies nahi dekhni chaiye
danie
Age: 124
6484 days old here
Total Posts: 382
Points: 0
Location:
China, China
Aap sabke khayalat jaane. Sabka alag alag sochna hai. Main AShii ji ke khayalat se agree hon (sorry abhi "agree" ke liye sahi urdu word dimag mein nahi aa raha.
Mere khayal se pyar sirf ek jazba hei. Alag alag age mein iska impact alag alag hota hei. 17-18 ki age to kayalon mein urrne aur dube rahne ki hei. Ye statement jis par hum discuss kar rahe hein ek 17-18 saal ki larki ke hisab se sahi hei. Lekin mere khayal se waqt ke sath khayalat, jazbat, halaat sabhi kuch badalta hei. aur isi badlaav ka naam hi to jindgi hei.
danie
Age: 124
6484 days old here
Total Posts: 382
Points: 0
Location:
China, China
Mere hisab se is duniya mei jo bhi kuch hei sab conditional hei. Unconditional truth is only the one. Ya, I mean to indicate "Allah" or God or Bhagwan Or ......or...
Jese agar hum kahen ki " Pani colorless hota he." ek tarah se ye baat sahi hei. Lekin ye bhi tab hi sahi he jab ki vo pure ho. yani There is a condition. Jese " doodh ka rang safed hota he. true? but no again there is a condition ki hamne isne rooh afza nahi milaya hua he to. Aese har ek baat perfect truth nahi hei. sab ke sath kuch na kuch conditions he.
The very same thing is here in the statement we are disscussing upon. The sentance is right but conditions are applied.
~M!zz M@gRooR~
Age: 124
5998 days old here
Total Posts: 74
Points: 0
Location:
United States, United States
well tht's a good question. its true that a girl never forgets her first love but it also depends on how strong her love was in the first place. I am not talkin abt the love tht guys and girls have for each other these dayz tht lasts only a few months. if she does really love someone she will not forget him even if she marries another guy but now tht she is married she will be loyal to her husband and start loving him. its not tht she is compromising. she will start loving her husband and maybe love her husband more then she ever loved the guy. its kind of complicated so those of whom this has happened to can actaully tell u how it is.
WARMTH OF LOVE
Age: 124
7919 days old here
Total Posts: 22153
Points: 0
Location:
Pakistan, Pakistan
everyone has to be loyal to his/her relationship ..... very true and well said
and as i can't give answer on my personal exp coz i'm not a girl but as far as i know ... u can't undo past.. tu achi buri yadein insaan k saath rehti hein ... Pyar , Nafrat insaan k dil mein pyda hoty hein .. jo waqat k saath or yeah kabhi kissi haas waqat gehray yeah madham ho jaty hein.
but .... agar insaan mein insaniyat hay .. chahy woh girl ho k boy.
wow awesome i must say .. ap nay khud likha hai? .. ahem jokes aside .. its just wow 
aasera she/he wasn't asking for personal experience, just ur opinion and observation..
